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she is chaotic and unpredictable. you will never know if she loves or hates you, if she will disappear or ask you to never leave. and that is why you have to love her because in her comings and goings she can offer you everything or leave you with nothing. she is that broken that pain doesn’t feel like pain anymore, however i have not seen anyone, never, laughing so hard of life as she does. and that is why i love her because she is the closest meaning to real true happiness
Male Pleasure. Lesson 17
In the previous lesson, I talked about male desire, and why harnessing it is so important for a successful female led relationship. Male pleasure, is something that is totally different. What does male pleasure look like in a female led relationship… Well in short, it looks like a female orgasm, but let me explain why.
Men are stupid. I don’t mean that in the intellectual sense exactly. But men are stupid in other ways, in sexual ways. They spend all of their time chasing an orgasm that lasts for a few seconds, before they enter into a refractory period in which they don’t wish to be touched, and likely want to sleep afterward.
Men believe orgasm is sexual pleasure. And sure, for a few seconds, it is pleasure, but what they don’t ever really seem to understand, is that it’s just a glimpse of it. It’s fleeting, and within hours, they’re already back to being sexually unfulfilled needing that few seconds of pleasure all over again. This runs their lives, and its incredibly stupid. What they don’t know, is that they can have sexual pleasure that lasts for hours and days at a time.
What they really don’t know, is that men are in fact, capable of multiple orgasms. Yes, men… multiple orgasms. Don’t look at me with that tone of face.
Men are generally too stupid and too busy chasing a few seconds of orgasmic pleasure, that they never truly discover the true sexual fulfillment their bodies were designed for. Why? Because for a man to have multiple orgasms, he must give up ejaculation.
Orgasm, and ejaculation, are separate functions of the body. They are not the same function, they just appear to be the same function, because men don’t understand that they can separate the two. A man can orgasm without having, an ejaculation. He can have multiple orgasms, without ejaculating.
But most men never will, because they’re so attached to their ejaculation, that they will NEVER will themselves, to try. Go ahead, try and tell a man he can have mind blowing lasting sexual fulfillment, all he has to do is stop ejaculating. I hear crickets. Do you hear crickets? This is why men are stupid. This is also why a female led relationship is so crucial in this world. Women can be men’s saving grace, as long as they understand how men work. See lesson 16 male desire for that.
Once a woman understands how a man works, she has so much power over him, that she can literally show him the way out of his own sexual confusion and bring him to new levels of understanding about himself, about women, and about life in general, because this type of sexual pleasure, is liberating on levels not just in body, but in spirit as well. It will break old conditioned habits and patterns he has had his entire life, including his addiction to masturbation.
Thus, freeing him to focus on her pleasure more, and becoming completely happy in his own body that he can meet her on levels she has always dreamed of. Through a female led relationship, a woman can guide a man to liberation, and he will worship her as a result.
This is very different than the mainstream version of femdom that involves whips and degradation. This is a practical female led relationship, that can change both your lives and make the world a better place at the same time.
A woman can use her dominance, to stop him from ejaculating, she will have to train this into him, the use of a chastity device can come in extremely handy for this training, as he will not be able to touch himself when not in her presence. This was also discussed in lesson 16.
There is a practice known as edging, and we see this all the time in the femdom realm of internet porn where a male is only allowed to edge, and is denied orgasm entirely. This serves its purpose, and makes men submissive, but that is not the focus of this lesson.
Women can use edging to train a man to separate orgasm from ejaculation. However, she must also teach him to move his sexual energy away from his genitals. You see, men are stupid, and always focus their sexual attention onto a very small portion of their body. Typically only the penis. If she commands him to focus on bringing that edging orgasmic feeling upwards and through his entire body, eventually she will get him to feel it move.
When it moves, he will experience sexual pleasure that encompasses his entire body, and for the first time in his entire life, he will feel so incredibly alive, that he will be sexually fulfilled. He will have never felt this way before, but it will be how he has always wanted to feel. His passion will boil over as a result of this, and it will make him see her through new eyes. He will want to worship her. In every way. His passion will be so intense, that it will surprise him and her.
Why is this important? How does this benefit a woman in a female led relationship, to give her male pleasure? It is because once she has awakened this passion within him, he will want to pleasure her. And every time she allows this, he will be moving his sexual energy, almost on auto pilot once he’s understood that he can do this.
So when he is pleasuring her, every time she has an orgasm, it will radiate through her, and into him. He will be tapping into her sexual energy, which then enhances his energy, and it will continue to fulfill him in ways he never imagined. Her orgasm, will be the only orgasm required for both partners to be totally and completely sexually fulfilled.
A relationship full of passion and chivalry and romance. Because sexual fulfillment not fleeting orgasms, turns stupid men into smart men. They suddenly get it, and can finally meet women on the level women have always wanted men to be on. In tune with her intimacy.
He will never need to ejaculate, he can remain locked in chastity or on the honor system, because once he has experienced sexual fulfillment, the honor system will work because he knows that the moment he ejaculates, it all goes away. It’s back to square one, until his sexual energy can build itself back up to those levels, that take weeks to build.
The longer he goes without ejaculation, but with moving his energy through his body, the more intense it gets, but he’s not “ horny” he’s fulfilled, and there is a major difference between the two. A horny male makes for an easily manipulated male, the likes of which we see in femdom all over the place. Sure it’s a turn on, and fun to dominate a male in this manner.
But a fulfilled male makes for a dedicated submissive, happy, willing, and honored to serve his goddess, no manipulation required. So to have a successful female led relationship, you might want to start by asking the question, do you want a stupid male, or a smart one?
All this information is true, and sadly, the vast majority of people will read it and scoff. It’s really sad. But for those of you that do try it, your lives will change for the better. Who knew, that stopping a male from ejaculating would actually lead to his greatest sexual fulfillment?
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How to fully control Your sub in 9 steps
1: You need to get into his head.
-Learn his fantasies and what turns him on. Use this information against him and to Your advantage.
-Find out what humiliates him, and to what level.
-Make him show his loyalty to You regularly. Reward him, even if it’s just with positive attention when he does.
- Aside from family, close friends and work, give him 0% privacy. Don’t hide this process from him, make him partake in handing it over to you in ways that demonstrate how he is “losing the privacy.”
-Make him need You for everything. Point out how You help him, how You guide him, and how You accept the negative things about him that others may not.
- Hypnosis, especially while they are sleeping can help transfer messages, ideas and ideals about You deep into their faggot head.
2: Punish him often for everything, no exceptions!
- Don’t let him get away with anything! When You let your sub get away with something. You are telling him that You don’t care for him and that what he did was ok.
- You can Spank, paddle, or whip him.
- Humiliate him past what is easy for him.
- Long term bondage
- Corner time
- Food restrictions
- Writing standards/lines\
- Write a book report or essay.
- Ground him/take away privileges.
- Wash his mouth out with soap.
- Make him do anything he hates.
- Get creative and make the punishment match the crime.
- Never use separation or the threat of leaving/ending Your control over him as a punishment. That is counterproductive to the end goal (trust and service) and is detrimental to the faggot.
3: Routinely discipline him. This is different than punishment.
- Spank him once a week, just because You can, not too hard, not too soft.
-Humiliate him often.
- 5-10 minuets of corner time a day can do wonders for him, like a sub’s meditation.
- If he is stressed, give him a break and put him in some comfy bondage for a while. You may or may not want to integrate impact play with this. For lots of subs, some pain can really help elevate their mode for the rest of the day or longer.
- Routine discipline will save You time and energy in the long run. You will have to punish him less as a result.
- Taking care of You can be part of his discipline. Have him do Your laundry, cleaning, etc.
4: On some level, even if it’s small, keep Your sub horny for You.
- Talk sexy to him.
-Sexualize non sexual things/activities You are interested in. He will see whatever it is You’ve sexualized as such and be more interested/eager to engage.
- Have Your sub do some or all of Your body grooming. This can be Your baths, Your nails, shaving, trimming, waxing, etc.
- Scare him by telling him when and what You’re going to do to him in the near future.
- Send him text messages with orders to do something sexual.
- Make him give You orgasms. This is different from sex. This is a service.
- Let him rest on You to smell You as You watch TV or read.
- Give him underwear/items of Yours to smell as he sleeps.
- Hypnosis, especially while Your sub sleeps can help with this too.
5: Control Your own feelings of guilt.
- Your sub needs You to be strong “with” him. You may show vulnerabilities in Yourself for other aspects of Your life. When it comes to him and Your control over him, be firm!
- Some meanness and cruelty will be needed from time to time to help break Your sub down.
- Your sub may not want everything You give him/ do to him, but he needs it.
- Letting Your sub get away with insubordinate behavior because You feel guilty adequately and severely addressing it is weak. You need to control that shit.
- Sub faggots need a real man who is close to them to guide them. Sometimes real men need to show the fag that they are inferior. This can’t always be done by talking. And if it is done my talking, the talking can’t be politically correct/kind.
- Humiliation/breaking him down, teaching him to serve long term, these are all things he needs. You are filling his needs.
- Remember, You both need to be happy. But happiness comes from different places for different people. If there is communication, and Your sub has communicated that he needs this life to be happy, then You are doing him a service and loving him by breaking him down and controlling him.
- A good sub is hard to find. Don’t let the guilt of giving him what he needs stop You from doing so. What he needs may be overwhelming for him and he may break. If he does be there for him.
6: Humiliate/degrade/break him down on some level daily, some days more than others.
- Have him wear a small butt-plug for a time, wifi enabled if possible.
- Have him be naked or close to it, around You and or Your friends.
- Make him wear a collar or other symbol of inferiority.
- Make him wear a chastity device sometimes.
- Teach them “tricks” like sit, drop to their knees to kiss Your crotch, etc. In public or with friends randomly call out a trick every now then. Make sure Your sub does this flawlessly without hesitation.
- Make him masturbate for You.
- Slap him in the face.
- Spit on him.
- Treat him as an inferior in public. (Ex: he carries all bags, opens doors, eats Your leftovers, holds Your drinks, tie Your shoes etc.)
- Make him eat his own cum sometimes.
- Talk down to him in front of others
7: Rearrange his life/time to better serve/please You. Make sure this does not interfere with his time with loved ones or work.
- If You want to change his body to Your liking, do so. Control his workouts, diet etc. Make sure and be realistic with this one.
- Make sure he is available during some of Your leisure time each week so he will be able to serve You during those times.
- Put him on a sleeping schedule. Lots of fags are not able to adequately manage their sleep times. The better rested he is, the better he will serve You.
- Go through his closet/things and throw away/put away any clothing You don’t like him to be wearing.
- Sign him up to learn new tasks or prefect tasks/skills that will help You. (Ex: massage classes, cooking classes, pet care, etc.)
- Change their grooming habits to Your liking.
8: Help Your sub be grateful for everything he has. Make sure You are at the top of that list. One great way to do this is to deny him things. Yep, it’s time to say “No.” Subs need boundaries, and saying “No” is a great way to help them with those boundaries.
- You can take away certain foods, comforts, leisure time, sex, masturbation, etc.
- Make him show his gratitude to You often. Faggots will show this to You in their own way. Most faggots will need some help/instruction on exactly how to show their gratitude to You.
- Make him explain why he deserves something. If he can’t explain why well enough. Then take it from him.
- You can take things/items from him that You know he does not need, but likes. (Make sure he can afford for You to take them and that they are not of an additional value such as sentimental etc.) Let him know from time to time that You enjoy something that You took from him.
- Offer him a reward of getting to have something back. Make what you give him back relevant to what You make him do. This could be sort or long term.
9: None of these actions will work without real trust.
- If Your sub is Your partner, let him know how much his sub-ass completes You and Your power.
- If Your sub is not Your partner, make sure You two are real friends. That You appreciate how his inferiority completes you. The more You two know about and do with each other. The more thoroughly You can control him.
-Part of trust on the subs part is trusting that You will follow through when You say You are going to do something to him or are going to make him do something. Follow through always.
- When a sub fully trusts You. He can submit to You his mind and privacy. Letting You go in and re-arrange/manage his life.
- Subs need constant reassurance. Let him know that no matter what, he is Yours. If a serious sub feels disposable. He will look for another Dom who appreciates his surrender.
- If Your life is getting too hard for a bit or You need help with something. Trust that Your sub will be able to take over for You and act in your best interest until You are back in shape. Giving sub this responsibility will either make him feel trusted and good, or upset that You are not actively controlling him 100% of the time. If he gets upset and does not step up and take over for You. Then drop him like a hot potato.
-Talk to Your sub often. Ask him how he is feeling, and let him honestly know how You are feeling on anything and everything.
- By taking things away from him, You are in a sense rewarding him when You give them back. Also, nothing he has is his forever. You need to re-take things and privileges away from him periodically so he knows they are a privilege and not a right. Think of it like taking a food bowl away from a dog. Your sub needs be docile enough that You can take his food bowl away from him as he is eating. He will not make a fuss and patiently wait until the food is returned
-Please note: Do not ever deny him from being with Friends or family. Make him realize that the only reason You allow him to have constant contact/interaction with good friends and family is because he “helps” them by being a good friend or family member. Make sure the he understands that the happiness that comes from being with them is “second” to the happiness that he brings them. Basically, he needs to understand that if he pulls away from loved ones. While he is under Your control his loved ones will suffer. That is why he is allowed (and encouraged) to keep and/or strengthen the bonds he has with them.
Please note: The following is a list of things to control a sub only. Please do not implement these ideas if You do not care about and are not committed to Your sub. This list is not all inclusive of how to treat Your sub. This list leaves out the important kind necessities that Your sub needs such as reassurance, love, respect, being protected, allowed to be protective of You etc. These ideas are for a long term 24/7 arrangements, not a scene. Not everything will apply in every case, and there may be things on the list that will work for You.
This is mostly right… :-) I know that I am happiest when I know that I am owned, and that Sir @adisonbdsm is in control.
Anonymous asked:
keephimcaged answered:
… the time now. We talk about sex very openly now, his libido is focused on me and it’s wonderful. As much as I wish it hadn’t happened in some ways I’m glad because things are so much better now. For our 20th wedding anniversay this year, he got his cock pierced (my idea) and the extra reassurance that there’s literally no way to remove it is both a comfort to me and a turn on for us both.
I’ve gone from a sexless marriage and infidelity (and yes the two were clearly related I know that) to a very intimate and renewed relationship thanks to the wonders of male chastity and inspiration from your blog. So I just wanted to say a big thank you and also encourage any women unsure about this, who hopefully haven’t had the trauma I did, to make the most of caging and enjoy all the wonderful upsides! Anna.
Wow Anna, thank you so much for that, it’s a huge encouragement!!! I’m sorry you had to go through that but so glad it’s worked for good for you both.
I’ve had exactly the same thought, that if hubby were unfaithful I’d insist that piercing and caging was the outcome. Initially to punish him, but then to get that reassurance (I mean, that’s what they were created for for women originally isn’t it!). I even think if he worked away a lot I’d suggest it. He’s done a few work trips where I’ve sent him caged and it was such a turn on just knowing he couldn’t even have a wank - although without piercing I know they’re all theoretically escapable. I have a fantasy about taking him to some really pretty female piercing… technician is it? And explaining why he’s getting a ‘prince albert’ as they call them.
Anyway, sorry, getting off track! Thanks so much for your message. I’m sure it’ll be a real encouragement to many to give this a go.
Jane xxx
@daisyssubmissive is almost your life.
Dommes be like
Look at this precious creature. Such a beautiful, innocent, perfect creation. I just want to hold it and cuddle it and kiss it and pet it and love it. I shall protect it. It will know that in my arms no one will ever harm it.
*evil grin blossoms across her face*
That is to say, nobody but me.
Why do you expose me like this

